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Cake day: June 21st, 2023

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  • Yeah living with other people requires you to respect noise levels. It’s just basic courtesy. There are six in our house and we have an earliest time that the shower can be turned on for example (edit: it’s an electric shower and noisy AF). Of course exceptions have to be made.

    If he’s not prepared to turn down the TV to a reasonable level that’s on him. He knows it’s upsetting you and is prepared to continue upsetting you. That’s really unhealthy and inconsiderate behaviour.

    One thing that might help is getting him to use headphones with the TV. Most TVs these days have Bluetooth support. If I’m watching a movie late at night (common) I’ll always use headphones. Again it’s just common courtesy.



  • Yeah, this fits more or less where I am. My eldest is 27 and left home 5 years ago. He’s just out of a long term relationship around 6 months. He lives in a different country in central Europe and is living the life. Travels a lot, has a great group of friends spread all over the continent, great job that he really likes earning good money etc. I’m really happy for him and it does give me a sense of ease to see him at a point in his life where he’s thriving.

    On the other hand I’d be very happy to see him in a loving relationship and / or owning property instead of paying rent. Snuggles are nice and rent is poverty tax (for the most part) but I’m conscious that owning a property ties him to a place and he’s not ready for that yet.

    So…to answer OP…I’m not obsessed with it at all, but they’re nice things to see for your kids that kinda tick the box of “my job here is (mostly) done”.










  • In my late teens, maybe 20 I worked in a restaurant and got invited to a party after work in a very rough part of town. So rough that the taxi driver wouldn’t let us get out until we found the exact address (this would have been mid nineties so well before GPS nav was popular).

    Anyway we get there. Folks are nice. Maybe ten in total plus the 4 of us from work. They’re rough around the edges but generally salt of the earth characters which I love so it’s all going well. Get chatting to one lad and he shows me his new tattoo on his forearm that his friend had done for him.

    It was a palm tree on a tiny desert island with a dude sitting against the tree smoking a massive joint.

    Now this monstrosity was one colour, all outlines, looked like it was done with a compass from your school pencil case and my 11 year old would have done a better job. It’s very difficult to describe just how shite it was.

    Felt really sorry for the lad. He was definitely going to regret it if he didn’t already. Never forgot that tattoo though.