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    • Six-year-olds have very little agency over their minds and so little understanding of the world that IMO it’s not really worth it to view them as “guilty” of things.
    • I don’t know whether this is a useful way of thinking about things for you, but most of the matter in your body has been replaced with new matter since you were six years old. I expect most of the way you think and the things you know have been replaced since then, and how your cognition works on a very basic level has changed. Like, if you’re over age 27 you have a developed prefrontal cortex that wasn’t all there before. You’ve changed enough that you could safely regard yourself as a different person in a material sense, and a much better person. Sometimes when I remember something terrible I’ve done ages ago, the way I’ll think of it is that I can destroy that other version of me by becoming a different, better person.
    • You could see life-changing benefits by seeking therapy resources like DBT and CBT. Web searching these can lead you to free video resources that you could listen to while doing whatever else you do with your day.

  • Autistic adult here:

    I do feel like I have a more childlike appearance sometimes, less so in recent years. I think that because of the seriously messy place my mind was in from the very start, it took me longer to interact with other people enough to develop the social awareness I needed to “fit in”, and not “fitting in” is often equated with being childlike, IMO. I still occasionally mutter to myself in public, have odd movements and posture, and generally act in a way that diverges from the social norms of the people around me, for better or for worse. Medication has changed all this around in ways that are too complicated to get into in one comment.

    My mind never stopped developing. My brain chemistry changed as I went through puberty, and then through adulthood when the prefrontal cortex starts doing its thing. I kept gaining new knowledge from my surroundings and my peers and that changed how I thought about things on a basic level. There are certain specific areas in which I was always considered “more mature”.

    My experience doesn’t necessarily reflect those of other autistic people who’ve had different hands dealt to them. I’d be happy to answer any other questions you have.







  • Years are ordinal numbers, the kind of number that tells you which place you finished in a race, and as such cannot have zeroes or negatives. You’re living in the 2,024th year since the instant that began the Common Era. “0th” and “-1st” are not valid expressions for years for the same reason that you can’t place 0th in the Olympics



  • The “before I cave in” remark is probably just about failing the “avert my eyes” thing and looking at the women in the Mat 5:28, committing adultery in your heart kind of way. From a Catholic perspective OOP’s concerns are completely reasonable as even thinking about sex too hard is supposed to send you to the forever torture zone. I doubt this guy is a hair trigger away from committing SA but the situation is disturbing in a few other ways

    Source: am ex-cradle-Catholic and read all the stuff about sexual morality






  • No, and for my one-minute abridged defense:

    • Gen 1-2 definitely didn’t happen and were written by two different groups with different religious views using two different creator-god names
    • Noah’s Ark definitely didn’t happen, and the story repeats itself all the time because it crushes together the Yahwist’s and Elohist’s writing in a manner especially suggestive of natural human authorship
    • New Testament claims that the human lineage is as young as is reported in Gen 2 (Luk 3:38) and has Jesus - presumably the same entity as God - suggest multiple times in two gospels that the great flood was a real event

    That’s about enough to deconvert already, and it keeps getting worse the deeper you take things





  • The Mandela Effect does not exist in the manner you’re describing, and by priming your audience to expect a specific false memory you’re tainting the data from any responses you get.

    People wouldn’t have the Berenstain/Bernstein thing mixed up in their heads so much if the conversation about it was always phrased as “Who are the authors of that old children’s picture book series with the bears?” instead of adding doubt with “Do you remember the authors as Berenstain or Bernstein?”